Who would I be without selective mutism?

I’ve often wondered how my life might look if I had not presented with selective mutism as a child. – If I had attended my first day at nursery school and spoken to my peers and my teachers? – If I had never struggled to answer the role? – If a stranger had smiled at […]

Inside my Anxious Mind – Are you sure?

This is post two in a five-part series called ‘inside my anxious mind’, within which I am exploring my experience with different aspects of anxiety. I love to be able to shift my perspective, and hope that my writing also helps you to shift yours. In this post I will be exploring the part of […]

Inside my anxious mind – fears and dreams

This is the first post in a five-part series called ‘inside my anxious mind’, within which I am exploring my experience with different aspects of anxiety. It is my aim to discover a new perspective from which to view this behaviour. This first post will look at contrast – the space between what I want […]

Selective mutism – how my daughter helped me to heal

When my daughter was three years old, her pre-school teacher told me that she had never heard her speak. Immediately my mind spiralled out of control: I was terrified that she might follow in my footsteps, and selective mutism was not something I wanted my daughter to experience. Simon (my partner) reassured me that our […]

Have you heard of selective mutism?

I grew up believing I was shy and quiet. I didn’t like it, but I didn’t know how to be anything else – because no matter how hard I tried, there were often situations I would find myself in where I was unable to say a word. I had a head full of questions, opinions […]

When you’ve had enough of being ‘the quiet one’

When I was sixteen I had had enough. I felt like I was trapped inside of my personality – and I was sick of being quiet. For as long as I could remember, I had struggled to fit in. Everywhere I went, I longed to be able to say more, to stand out more, to […]

Is it possible to grow out of selective mutism?

When I was young I had no idea that Selective Mutism existed. I assumed I was ‘just shy’ and I also assumed that one day I would simply grow out of my shyness, and find it easy to share my voice with others just like everybody else. I dreamed of the day I would cross […]

Being vulnerable – the most rewarding and most difficult thing we can ever do

According to Brene Brown, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability and authenticity.” Apparently to be vulnerable takes great strength and is strewn with rewards. To be vulnerable does not make us weak like many people believe – it is instead the […]

Quiet and proud – making peace with selective mutism

For a long time I felt like the word ‘quiet’ haunted me. Everywhere I went – no matter who I met, or how far I ran – the adjective would be there, waiting for me. I never knew when it might pounce … sometimes I would think I had escaped, but ultimately it would find […]