Who would I be without selective mutism?

I’ve often wondered how my life might look if I had not presented with selective mutism as a child. – If I had attended my first day at nursery school and spoken to my peers and my teachers? – If I had never struggled to answer the role? – If a stranger had smiled at […]

Selective mutism – how my daughter helped me to heal

When my daughter was three years old, her pre-school teacher told me that she had never heard her speak. Immediately my mind spiralled out of control: I was terrified that she might follow in my footsteps, and selective mutism was not something I wanted my daughter to experience. Simon (my partner) reassured me that our […]

Have you heard of selective mutism?

I grew up believing I was shy and quiet. I didn’t like it, but I didn’t know how to be anything else – because no matter how hard I tried, there were often situations I would find myself in where I was unable to say a word. I had a head full of questions, opinions […]

When you’ve had enough of being ‘the quiet one’

When I was sixteen I had had enough. I felt like I was trapped inside of my personality – and I was sick of being quiet. For as long as I could remember, I had struggled to fit in. Everywhere I went, I longed to be able to say more, to stand out more, to […]

Is it possible to grow out of selective mutism?

When I was young I had no idea that Selective Mutism existed. I assumed I was ‘just shy’ and I also assumed that one day I would simply grow out of my shyness, and find it easy to share my voice with others just like everybody else. I dreamed of the day I would cross […]

Quiet and proud – making peace with selective mutism

For a long time I felt like the word ‘quiet’ haunted me. Everywhere I went – no matter who I met, or how far I ran – the adjective would be there, waiting for me. I never knew when it might pounce … sometimes I would think I had escaped, but ultimately it would find […]

Here’s what the 30 day blogging challenge has done for me!

Writing has always held an important place in my life. Due to selective mutism, the tricky task of translating my thoughts and feelings into words has not always been easy. Even now, I find the words I use when I speak don’t always represent the original intention of what I was hoping to say. I […]

I have something to say!

All through February I wrote about selective mutism and my experiences with it. If you have been enjoying reading my posts, the good news is that I’ve barely even begun! The more I write, the more I learn about myself and the different ways this condition has manifested in my life – as well as […]

From the Heart – introducing my speech about selective mutism

For the month of February I have been exploring my experiences with selective mutism. My last post was about my interpretation of communication – and the ways we communicate without speaking. Today I will be representing my local Toastmaster’s Club in our area competition. My speech is about my experiences with selective mutism, and is […]