Feeling stuck? Maybe you need to dream more …

perfect-dayDo you know what you’d like your future to look like? Do you have goals and plans, hopes and dreams? Do you spend much time imagining how your life will look and feel when you achieve these dreams?

I am a firm believer in the power of intention, visualisation, and in particular, writing things down.

No matter what challenges you may be facing in your life right now, and even if there seems to be no way around them, I believe that there is. The key is to stop trying to force your way through, step back, and let life guide you in the right direction.

I have experienced this countless times, as my persistent attempts to bash down the barriers in my life proved fruitless. At some point I either collapse, exhausted, or else I will notice that my behaviour is not helping and I will admit defeat. In my experience, life has an incredible way of showing us the way to go – if we will only let it – but how will life know the way we want to go if we do not tell it?

The importance of having a dream

When I was young, I dreamed and dreamed about my future. I dreamed of a time when talking would be easy, when I would feel accepted by my peers, and I would travel around the world. I would meet the man of my dreams and stay in his country. Life would be easy then, I thought.

I achieved these dreams in my early twenties, and life felt good. I chose to settle in New Zealand with Simon, but almost instantly things seemed to fall apart. I was drinking heavily, working hard, and dreaming about nothing. I began to experience Night Terrors, and they increased in intensity over a few years. Emotionally I was a bit of a wreck, and my mental health was suffering too.

It was years of therapy and self development before I realised (one of the ways) I had been going wrong …

I had stopped dreaming. I had achieved the goals I had for my life, and was wondering why my life wasn’t filled with roses and butterflies. Truth was, I had no direction, no forward momentum, no reason to get up in the morning.

This was an important time in my life, because as I fell apart, I awoke within myself a desire to heal. Although I did not dream as vividly as I had as a child, I did commit to this goal, and I knew that I was capable of overcoming my seemingly never-ending issues.

Fast forward quite a few years and I was ready to look forward again. I wrote and I dreamed and I created Vision Boards for my future, and once again my life had traction.

The “Perfect Day” exercise

If you have been reading my blog posts this week, you will know that I am participating in the 10 Day Freedom Blog Challenge. I have identified the three main challenges that I face in my pursuit of freedom, and I have written about the importance of freedom in my life.

Today’s challenge is to visualise ‘Your Perfect Day’. Writing, combined with visualisation, is an important tool in my life – and a very powerful one too. This is how I set intentions for my life, and how I begin to dream up my future – although I have never yet written out my perfect day. I would urge you to give this exercise a go too – it is a big thing to consider the way you would like your day to look and feel.

Once you have done it, try not to compare your current experience with your dream. We need dreams to work towards. We also need to revisit these dreams often, and change them to reflect the changes we have made in our lives. Our dreams must grow with us, otherwise we might find ourselves in the place I was in my early twenties. I had everything I’d ever wanted, but I had never felt worse. I think this is because our dreams give our life purpose – and without purpose our lives lack the meaning and richness that makes us feel alive.

I hope you have enjoyed reading this post – please comment below if you have been inspired to write out Your Perfect Day, or even just to start dreaming a little more … it truly is magic.

my-perfect-day Please download this PDF of my perfect day if you’d like to! This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 3